Saturday, 5 January 2013

Technology changing our lives


Technology is changing our lives at a frantic pace. Every year new applications and gadgets are introduced to make life comfortable and hassle-free. It is a topic of endless debate that these technological advancements have really helped human beings or made them completely dependent.

The trend of online shopping saw a new height in 2012. Many new e-shopping marts selling shoes, books, t-shirts and digital music set-up shop. According to market reports, e-commerce is set to take off in the country and Indian e-retailing sales will touch the $1 billion mark in 2013. People are buying books, shoes, and garments and even grocery items online.

Technology is changing our lives not only in the way we shop or make payments but also in the way we live our life. People do not halt at the crossroads to find their way to a restaurant or a bank. Global Positioning System (GPS) in their vehicles or mobile phones can easily direct them.

The social media has changed the way we interact with people. People may not be together all the time but they can remain in touch with their friends and colleagues on Black Berry Messenger, Instant Messenger or on social networking sites.

One could not imagine of video chatting ten years ago. Now, one can do it over phone with reasonably good video and sound quality; the cost is not high. According to a report by the Telecom Regulatory Authority of India (TRAI), India has the second largest mobile phone user base and third largest Internet user base. The report says that the numbers of mobile and Internet users will increase when the government expands its network in rural areas. Mobile phones and tablets will overtake computers as the most common gadgets for surfing the Internet in the years to come. 

BUILD A BETTER YOU


As we begin the New Year, we look with hope and eager expectation to those who guide the destiny of the nation. At the same time let all of us remember that the effort of each individual can make or mar the concerted effort of the nation as a whole.
If you are one of those who believe that you are too insignificant to play a part in the nation’s progress, read with care what God told a young teenager who prayed earnestly for a better world:
“YOU should build a better world!” God said.
Teenager questioned: “How? The world is such a wondrous place; so complicated now; and I so small and useless am, there’s nothing I can do.”
But God, all-wise and kind, replied:
“Just build a better YOU!”
No matter your age, the advent of the new year is the occasion for new resolutions and new plans. But to the teenager and the young worker, entering the new year can be compared to a bird that has just been caged.
Because its vision is not obstructed by the bars of the cage, the bird imagines that its freedom of movement is not permanently obstructed—there is a way out, if only it can find the opening.
After a few attempts have failed, the bird grows despondent and in time gives up in despair.
EAGER ZEAL
In the same way, youth faces the new year. First, full of enthusiasm, with rosy dreams and ambitious schemes.
With eager zeal and fresh vigour they devour the articles that fill the special new year issues of magazines and say with firmness: “This year nothing will stop me from my goal.”
Then as the weeks go by, things begin to get tough, and their resolutions weaken. They hear their companions say, “It’s no use!” and see them give up one by one.
When the time comes, remember that with a little more trying success will be yours.
Why? Because you are not a bird in a cage. The cage you are in is of your own making—barriers raised by past failures, bars put in your way by parents who lack faith in your powers, or companions who try to stop you succeeding where they themselves have failed through sheer laziness.
YOU can fly above them for they don’t enclose you; they are only fences that force you to mount higher.
BASIC RESOLUTIONS
Stick to basic and practical resolutions. Start with Punctuality. This is easy and it will build your confidence when you find how helpful being punctual can be. Your companions admire you and your elders begin to depend on you.
Second, learn to fulfil your promises and don’t be in a hurry to make them. Many a promising young person becomes unpopular by promising too much.
Next, try to improve your handwriting and your spelling. Learn to listen with attention and ask questions rather than air your views on topics you know very little about. This way you will learn more and make many more friends. Resolve to read at least two good books a month.
At the recent book fairs in Bhubaneswar, it was good to see more young boys and girls going in for self improvement books. These teach how to live a fuller life gaining both profit and pleasure through positive thinking and prompt action. If you are one of those who have been dogged by failure in the past, take courage and start anew under expert direction this time. With the dawn of each new day, say with courage and with confidence: “Yesterday ended last night. Today is a brand new day!”

New Year’s Day – A historical perspective


Almost every culture possesses a notion of time. It is specifically significant to the rhythms of the community life and its people. Related to birth, marriage, death and the advent of harvesting, food gathering and hunting, seasons are linked with the cycle of nature that marks renewal.

Also, there are a series of ‘extraordinary times’, the most significantly widespread is the ‘first time’, which is celebrated in certain communities like the event of a boy becoming an adult. With it are linked certain noticeable events like that of killing a bird, fish or tortoise. Besides, in most cultures there is an absolute first time, for example, “the time of the creation of the cosmos” being the object of complex celebration.

The significance of the ‘first time’ is because the act performed happens to be new, fresh and invigorating. The inherent theme of the New Year is a recitation and remembrance of the creation of the cosmos on the anniversary to help strengthen the cosmos and the community as a whole.

Before setting down finally on the calendar, the first day of the years has undergone metamorphosis many a time. It makes interesting reading in history. In the Gregoriancalendar this day occurs 12 days earlier than in the Julian. The Greeks, until the 5th century B. C., began their year with the winter solstice (December 21). The Egyptians, Persians and Phoenicians commenced it at the autumnal equinox (September 21). The Jews reckoned their civil year from first day of the month of Tishri (September 6‑October 5) but their ecclesiastical year begins at the spring equinox (March 21).March 25 was usually observed as New Year’s Day by most Christians in the early medieval days. 

However, in Anglo-Saxon England December 25 was New Year’s Day. William the Conqueror ordered in the 11th century that the New Year should commence on January 1 but later, England began its years, with the rest of Christendom, on March, 25. The Gregorian calendar (1582) restored January 1 to its position as New Year Day. Other countries followed it up gradually, for instance, Scotland in 1660; Germany and Denmark about 1700, England 1752, Sweden in 1753 and the Soviet Union in 1918.

Celebration of New Year’s Day is one of the oldest and most universally accepted festivals of human civilization which has been in vogue for more than 5000 years. Scholars striving to discern and draw a common pattern to New Year scenarios have outlined it broadly as an act of purification can endeavour to clean society from its past.

With the attributes of modern culture making inroads in our life, this day has assumed significance and as a mark of reviewing and conceiving the passage of time, the triumph and omissions of the past and anticipating a bright future. Arrival of this special day is, thus, impatiently awaited for the ceremonies.

 It begins with New Year’s Eve, traditionally observed and celebrated with singing in churches. The midnight hour is the occasion to welcome New Year loudly with fire crackers exploding, merrymaking and dancing. In parties, arranged for the occasion people sing and rejoice.

 People with faith in astrology, look into the astrologer’s columns in newspapers and magazines to read their fortunes during the coming year. It is interesting to note that in the west some people observe the direction of the wind too, like this:

“If on New Year’s Eve night it blow south
That betokeneth warmth and growth;
If north, much cold and storms will be;
If east, the trees will bear much fruit;
If north-east, flee it man and brute”

These people believe that what ever happens at this prophetic hour is sure to influence the course of the coming year.

The day has gained a socio-cultural tint and celebrated with great gusto, greeting friends and relatives and exchanging pleasantries for a prosperous future.  

Monday, 31 December 2012

10 New Year Resolutions


Begin the New Year on a new note! Here are some resolutions for you! Add a little sunshine and plenty of smiles to people around you.
New Year is a time of fun and frolic to eat, drink and be merry. Don’t confine to the Epicurean life-style. Do enjoy yourself but don’t overindulge.
  • Get in touch through handmade cards or the techno savvy e-mail with relatives and friends you can’t meet personally. Renew old bonds with long forgotten friends by sending New Year wishes to them.
  • Dissolve differences which may have cropped up between you and your family members, friends and other relatives. Patch up and make up with people in your life. Life is too short to be wasted on grudges.
  • Give up two weaknesses and faults you have been wanting to get rid of. Target atleast two tasks which you have been wanting to achieve for long time. It could be being punctual, avoiding procrastination or not delving in constant criticism.
  • Resolve to devote at least fifteen minutes daily for your physical fitness. Not only ‘an apple a day’ but also some exercise everyday will help keep the doctor away!!
  • Understand the value of time. Make a resolution to be methodical and systematic. Manage your time well so that you have some leisure for your hobbies.
  • Take sweets, smiles and best wishes for the inmates of an old-age home. Spend some time with them.
  • Call on the family of someone who was killed while doing his duty. Take some flowers as a token of your regard for them.
  • Visit an orphanage. More than sweets give the children love and support. Being with them is bound to be a delightful experience for them and you.
  • Join in the drive to eradicate illiteracy by enabling an illiterate to read and write in the coming year.
  • If you are eligible, pledge to cast your vote in every election. This will strengthen democracy. 

Listen with care and learn well


Despite its centrality to professional success and personal fulfilment, listening is one of the most underrated aspects of effective communication. Dr. Ralph G. Nicols, who developed innovative classes on listening at the University of Minnesota, sheds light on our acquisition of poor listening skills: “It can be stated with practically no qualification that people in general do not know how to listen. They have ears that hear very well, but seldom have they acquired the necessary skills which would allow those ears to be used effectively for what is called listening”.

Although learning to be an effective listener is not an easy task, one can become a proficient listener by acquiring certain skills which go a long way to improve the quality of our listening.  Good listening involves mastering a cluster of skills, attending skills, following skills and reflecting skills. Attending is giving your physical attention to another person. Attending is non-verbal communication that indicates that you are paying careful attention to the person who is talking.

Attending skills include a posture of involvement, appropriate body motion, eye contact, and the creation of a non-distracting environment. Often we fail to comprehend what another person is saying because instead of ‘listening’ carefully we do most of the talking. Unfortunately, the average ‘listener’ interrupts and diverts the speaker by asking many questions or making many statements.

The ‘following’ skills that foster effective listening are ‘door openers’, ‘minimal encouragers’, ‘open questions’ and ‘attentive silence’. These skills enable the listener to keep the focus on the speaker’s communication.  A ‘door opener’ is a friendly invitation to talk. There are times when ‘door openers’ are not necessary. The speaker plunges right into his theme. Sometimes, however, you will sense that the other person wants to talk but needs encouragement.

At other times, the speaker will show the signs that he is unsure about continuing. A ‘door opener’ like this may help him proceed: “I am interested in hearing more about it”.

 ‘Minimal encouragers’ are words and phrases that aid the speaker to continue speaking. In the early stages of an interaction these words may be used more frequently to help the conversation gain momentum. The simple ‘mmhmm’ is probably the most frequently used of the minimal encouragers. That brief phrase can suggest “Please continue, I am listening and I understand”.

A skilled listener can communicate much empathy through voice and facial expressions even when only one or two words are said. To be a good listener one should also cultivate the art of questioning. But it should be kept in mind that questions should focus on the intent and concerns of the speaker instead of the listener’s orientation.

Another skill essential to good listening is the art of silent responsiveness. The silence of the listener gives the speaker time to think about what he is going to say and allows the speaker to proceed at his own pace.

Finally, the good listener responds reflectively to what the speaker is saying. Good listening involves the ability to respond reflectively. In a reflective response, the listener restates the feeling and/or  content of what the speaker has communicated and does so in a way that demonstrates understanding  and acceptance. There are four basic reflecting skills. Paraphrasing, reflecting feelings, reflecting meaning and summative reflections. Paraphrasing  focuses on the speaker’s content.

The reflection of feeling occurs when the listener concentrates on feeling words, infers feelings from the general content, ‘reads’ body language and asks, “How would I feel if I were doing and saying that?” And then mirrors the feeling back to the speaker. The combined reflection of feelings and the content is called the reflection of meaning.  Summative reflections are very condensed recaps of the most significant elements of a fairly long segment of conversation.

Clearly listening is not an innate talent or a God-given gift. Instead, it is a special skill that has to be acquired and can be honed through regular and systematic effort.
Learning the multiple skills listed above and integrating them into our day-to-day interactions will enhance our listening ability thereby leading to effective communication. 

WOMEN AND CAREERS-Empowering themselves


There are several factors why women today are seeking various professions; the initial one is that women themselves are emancipated and have left their predecessors far behind; numerous restrictions and taboos have been discarded for further evaluation; they are in the forefront and are able to compete with men in every field except those requiring manual labour. Women are shining in spheres requiring intelligence and are playing their part with merit and honour.
Education has brought enlightenment, application, competence; with a woman’s innate patience and perseverance, it has given her the fillip and skill to take up any profession and tackle any problems arising therein.
Education is one of the finest weapons we have; an educated woman makes a good wife and a mother, she can teach and educate her children to be responsible citizens, instilling in them all the finer qualities, which only education can give. A liberality of outlook and soundness of judgment are the assets to be derived from education.
Another contributing factor is the economic ‘crisis’ that faces everyone today. Women, in particular, have to battle against heavy odds on the domestic front and supplement the family budget. The increased cost of living and skyrocketing prices demand the pooling of resources and it is but fair for women to share a little of the burden, and help the main breadwinner. And with children, the demands are endless.
Besides, today’s generation is well-groomed and smartly turned out. Cosmetics are an essential feature of this ‘process’, and also a good range of apparel, with all the accessories which go with it. All this needs money. A woman gets a special thrill and the feeling of elation that cannot be matched when she can earn and spend!
All these demands can be met only with sufficient means, and so more and more women have taken to a vocation or a side-line that is remunerative and satisfying.
INNER URGE
Women are turning to professions because of a very important reason—a woman’s urge to ‘do something’. They do not wish to stagnate, to be left out of the fast-moving world of today. The world has shrunk with quick means of communication and travel. Women are restless with that inner urge, to put their minds to something. The average housewife of today is educated, her mind has opened out, often she is talented.
We come to the conclusion that women do not only work but need to work for reasons of earning a remuneration and keeping themselves busy.

The joy of thumri


Everyone is familiar with the song ‘Hamein tumse pyaar kitna…’ sung by Kishore Kumar in ‘Kudrat’ (1981), but few have heard the same song sung by Praveen Sultana in the same movie. This song is a wonderful example of ‘thumri’ style of singing.

‘Thumri’ is one of the genres of semi-classical Indian music. It is a combination of characteristics of classical and light music styles and has an identity of its own. It began in the royal courts of the nawabs of Lucknow in the 19th century and continues to resonate the world over. An example of thumari adapted to modern listeners is the theme song of ‘1920’ (2010), ‘vada tumse hai vada…’ that has touched the cords of many hearts. It is in classical form blended with a modern form.

Thumri lyrics, like ‘khayal’ and ‘dhrupad’ are taken from anecdotes and ‘leelas’ (episodes) connected with Krishna and Rama. The content is basically rooted in a rural ambience. The theme of thumri is generally love with its various manifestations like joy, satisfaction of meeting the beloved, complaint, doubt, jealousy, and anger at disloyalty, melancholy with the pangs of separation, optimistic with the hope of meeting him again and many many more.

‘Thumris’ are always based on ragas – specifically khamaj, desh, piloo, kaafi, jogiya, maand, pahadi, gara and shivranjani bhairavi. It is because the notes of these ragas and the emotions they arouse are suitable to express the mood of thumri.

Earlier, ‘thumris’ were mostly sung as accompaniments to Kathak dancing which presented the mood of the song visually. But the dance part is going out of fashion and the ‘bhavs’ (feelings) are expressed only vocally. Girija Devi and Shubha Mudgal are some of few singers who render ‘thumri’ with expertise and succeed in bringing out the latest and hidden emotions embedded in the lyrics.