A friend perhaps is the greatest gift you give yourself. Often when we cannot talk to our parents or siblings for reasons unknown, a friend comes in handy. Being a friend needs skills. YS tells how.
= Like yourself
The first important step is to accept yourself the way you are. If you do not like yourself, how will you like others? When we genuinely like ourselves, we are happy naturally and this shows in our personality. We have more to offer since we are not always busy with our reputation and image.
= Give space
Remember, only wet clothes cling and they are discomforting. Now surely you do not want to be one. If you have problems being friends just let go. Give your friends space, they do not want any one breathing down their necks every second.
= Choose wisely
Identify friends you want to be with. If you are comfortable with only one that is perfectly normal. No one expects you to be equally close to all and sundry. But choose people who are actually nice, helpful and easy going.
= Time it
Friends are as important as relatives, so give them time. Now they too are a part of your life. Take a few minutes out of your busy schedule and go out with your friends. If this is not possible, talk on the phone.
= Remember
Try to remember important dates, birthdays, your friend’s parents’ wedding anniversary. Send flowers, a nice card or e-mail when your friend is down in the dumps.
= Lend your ear
If you want to be listened to, the golden rule is to be a good listener. It will go a long way in keeping a healthy relationship.
= Be interested genuinely
Do not fake that you are listening; your body language, eyes speak otherwise. Sooner or later your friend will get to know this and of course you will never want to hurt him/her.
If your friend is not there to defend herself/himself against rumours or criticism, you stand up. Would she/he have not done the same for you?
Always remember ‘to have a friend, be a friend.’
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